EVERYONE IS JUST WRITING A STORY

It's just so easy to present yourself as a victim. Everyone has this story of "struggle" that they think makes them worthy, good-enough, unique. Comparing is another behaviour that comes when this "victimises your behaviour". How it works is that you either tell your story to everyone and feel more satisfied when everyone sees you asa lotus that bloomed in a swamp or you listen to others telling their stories to you and you are just sitting there feeling superior because according to you what you went through is a lot and no-one could bear that pressure that you did. Now I am not sure if I could call this superior feel or inferior. So basically humans feel superior when they feel like there was some time in their lives when the person sitting in front of them had more than them, they were not privileged the same, so "They were inferior". Complex, right? Well how fascinating is this awful cycle. Now, let me add something more complex to this. If I or anybody tells you at this point of your life that this is your "that inferior period" that you are gonna use in future to feel good about yourself, feel superior, that is gonna give you that Gold that burnt in fire feeling. Doesn't feel very good, right? You definitely don't want that now, you want to be comfortable, you want to be happy right now. 

              I am not here to tell anyone that you are not the victim, stop whining all the time. Although I said it. 😉 I am here to point out that it is natural for human beings. Everyone is doing it because everyone needs it. Everyone builds their self esteem with their experiences. We humans need a film written on ourselves which lasts much longer than 3 hours. We built ourselves around that story. You would think our stories make us. No honey, you are making your story to write that much required film. But you don't want to write that part right now because it will hurt but eventually you will write it to make it an interesting biopic and then tell that to yourself or anybody that listens.

               Yeah there are some people who accept that they got it so easy but even they have their difficult times. I underlined "their" because it was their difficult time. It may be a lot easier for you or you had it much worse, according to you only or 2-3 more people around you. But that's it. Struggle is very personal to everyone. 

              Sometimes, I feels like humans want to be this complex, genius writer. Who wrote this amazing story on someone's life and now they just want to be heard and make more parts of that same story. What we find in our life partners, someone who will read, appreciate your previously written parts. And be a good, suitable character to the coming parts? What is family and friends, who witnessed the whole process, who are a part of that amazing story that you wrote? 

               Now my thesis will be proved by some people. We all met those people in our lives who are also doing their story thingy but just are more accepted and open about it. You know like "Yes, let's do this. I want to do this crazy thing because it will look so awesome when I will tell someone." Those people are just proving me write. Now don't go out and judge those people. Everyone is doing it you too but perhaps little subtly. You don't want to write a book that everyone is reading or atleast buying to put on Instagram stories. You also wanna write, tell your story to the world. But you want your book to be kept in back shelves, it's shy like you. 

               Continue writing your story and next time someone tells you they are some sort of victim. Think of it as them reading some interesting chapters of their stories that they wrote. You do that too.