Selflessness is selfish after all

This title is intriguing because of the word play and also because it contradicts what we had been taught in schools. If this would be a platform of cross questioning at every point many of you would have stood up with millions of examples of selfless deeds. Let me take some of that I thought through and realised that they are selfish.
Donations
We encounter this word on daily basis, disguised as a beggar or a NGO, or a orphanage, old age homes etcetera etcetera. Don't those donors think of well wishes they will get out of it, many time even while donating we think "God Is watching", even some go on and put stories of donating even a bun or you continue to brag with "Oh it feels good", "Donation is a meditation for soul/heart". Do they actually look selfless to you. These are the donations you made to make you feel good because you think "Karma is a bitch" and everyone tries to make that bitch their pet by manipulating it with these "selfless deeds"

Relationships
Parents are supposed to be the most selfless, always the givers, the martyrs in this relationship of parents and children. I don't wanna question that thing but if we dig deep, did your parents gave you birth to increase worlds population, why didn't they go adopt someone instead of giving birth to you- because of "my blood" desire. Parents expect from their children to support them a little when they grow up & when children don't- they go like "Did I bring you to this world to see this". They are not entirely wrong  if they wanted someone to take care of what they have earned, take forward their family name, or complete their life with marriage and children, but they are not that selfless, are they? Similar is with every other relationship we expect & we give according to our expectations, wd don't just donate our love if we get nothing in return.
There are many more examples. Actually I just wanna say no deed in this world is selfless but isn't that a good point. Humans are creatures with heart and brain and if they are using their brain which is making their heart feel good and also benefits others whats the harm in that. Even if they are doing it for themselves to not get punished by god, or keep their accounts clean in terms of Karma. Mostly rich people donate for two reasons
1. Because they can afford to donate obviously.
2. Because they don't want make karma angry & lose everything because they didn't share.
This is how world works, but its not bad if selfishness is disguised as selfless. Atleast some part of it is selfless. 
 

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